When someone you love get diagnosed with diabetes, you always feel on the edge all the time. Constant fearing about their health and sugar level.
But sometimes, a partner’s fear and worry about a loved one who has diabetes can easily be translated into criticism and nagging, which puts everyone on the defensive. The result is a contentious relationship where genuine concerns go ignored.
Being diagnosed with diabetes puts a person in the stages of grief, but caregivers often go through those stages, too. Sometimes people with diabetes take their condition in stride, while it's caregivers who take longer to cope.
One study found partners of people with type 2 diabetes had the same levels of depression and anxiety as their loved ones with the condition.
Who’s in the Driver’s Seat?
One of a partner’s biggest frustrations may be lack of control, which can cause constant worry over daily issues. Is your loved one eating too many carbs? Did he take his medication? Is she getting enough exercise? Will he go blind someday?
Accepting the reality that you can’t control what someone else does is a difficult hurdle for many. People will only do what they’re motivated to do. The fact is, people, make decisions all the time that directly affect their blood glucose. To exercise or not exercise. To eat or not eat. To sleep or not sleep. That means there will be times when you see loved ones not doing the right things.
To discern how your loved one is doing, it is asked to know about his or her A1C level and taking an honest assessment of your day-to-day lives. If the A1C is below 7 per cent and your loved one is enjoying life, then it’s time to relax a little. But if your loved one’s A1C is high and his or her health is poor, then offer to work together to find the right motivation to improve it.
In It Together
Even when just one family member has diabetes, managing the condition is a team project. Anything that’s a challenge can either push you apart or bring you together. When people join forces on this, they can become closer than they’ve ever been before. The goal is to switch the situation from one that’s full of tension and turmoil to one that involves working together.